tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-57640953407408172022024-02-07T02:19:31.115-08:00Journey of LifeBridges are a lot like life’s journey…...a passing of one phase to another.ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.comBlogger354125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-34515881766450539282015-01-25T19:23:00.000-08:002015-01-25T19:23:31.968-08:00Life – Playing A Game of Chess with the Creator of the Game<div class="MsoNormal">
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something very unchartered for either one of us. Amira told me last night she wanted to send
an email to her father, and could I please give her the email address. Handling just this initial request alone
would determine a number of things, including how our relationship would go
from here forward. All of my inner
fears, over protective need to want to keep the past in the past were now
facing me, and how would I handle it? No
matter how much logically you understand things it never prepares you for the reality
of the situation until you are facing it right in the eye. Even knowing the loss of a loved one after a
slow painful death finally occurs, you are still not prepared for how you will
feel and react at that very moment, even though all along you felt you had been
preparing yourself for when the inevitable would happen.</i></span></div>
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<span style="color: purple;"><i>I gave Amira the email address and gave you space to write
her email. You could definitely feel the
tension and uncomfortableness in the room, both hers and mine. I literally felt helpless at the moment….not
knowing if what I was allowing was the right choice or not, and subsequently I
felt tears well in my eyes. She asked
why I was crying and I told her I wanted her to know this was uncharted
waters we were entering into and that no matter what she and I are a team and
we’d get through this. She asked if I
was mad she wanted to contact him, to which I responded I wasn’t. I asked her how she felt about her decision, to which she said she’s been thinking about
it for a couple of weeks now and feels this sense of urgency around it…….like
it needs to be now before it’s too late.
I asked why she felt this sense of urgency or that only now was the
time, and she said she didn't know.</i></span></div>
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<span style="color: purple;"><i>As we sat quiet on and off over what seemed like hours,
during the still quiet moments I felt like I was being shown a chess board with
players on the board. I felt like the
Creator of the Game was with me while I was looking at this board because this
very small quiet voice inside me asked to take a step back from the situation
and just look at everything for a moment before making my next move. At that very moment I felt like I was being told
this is how life works; it’s a game of chess.
Every situation in our lives is a move on the board. There isn't necessarily punishment involved
when we play a move wrong or anything like that, but rather an opportunity to
improve our game. Yes, we could continue
playing the same way we've always played, and guaranteed losing far more than
winning from that vantage point, but by taking our time, leaning back and
looking at the table, perhaps even at a different angle, we can see a better
move.</i></span></div>
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<span style="color: purple;"><i>As Amira and I are the ones currently playing this round, I
feel the Creator of the game’s presence and feel I should take some extra care
in how I play my next move, and ask myself if I’m doing it from my own ego self
or am I really doing what’s right for the whole situation. No doubt I’m human and will not play the game
right as I’m not finished mastering the game, but in this instance as painfully
tough as it is I will support her decision to make contact. I told Amira no matter what we’d work through
this together. </i></span></div>
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<span style="color: purple;"><i>May the Creator of this baffling game stay with us a bit longer
and give us some continued guidance…..would greatly appreciate it.</i></span></div>
ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-62401522948470479492014-07-26T09:28:00.000-07:002014-07-26T09:28:59.644-07:00When Spirit Moves You<span style="background-color: white; color: #37404e; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Interesting morning-</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #37404e; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">One never knows what Spirit/God/Creator/Allah/</span><wbr style="background-color: white; color: #37404e; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"></wbr><span class="word_break" style="background-color: white; color: #37404e; display: inline-block; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #37404e; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Jehovah...whatever name you prefer to use, will bring you.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #37404e; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">I've been seeing the word 'forgive" in various forms recently, and being one who fancies them self of philosophical sayings, I appreciate the wisdom in such phrases.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #37404e; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">Taking a momen</span><span class="text_exposed_show" style="background-color: white; color: #37404e; display: inline; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">t of solitude this morning, enjoying the gentle calm of the early morn, I find myself pondering on the word forgive and what it means to me on this day, for I'm well aware of what the word means and feel I've done it on various levels throughout my life, but today in particular I feel I'm being called to look at this word again.<br /><br />As I sit quietly, suddenly I'm presented with a question,,,,,"have you truly forgiven Adam (my ex)?" My first immediate reaction is to say, "yes". However, on a deeper level I'm asked once again, "have you truly forgiven Adam"? The second time I pause before answering, and earnestly walk down memory lane and see where I have 'forgiven' him justifiably. What I mean by justifiably is, in my own way I felt I had forgiven him because I don't talk ill of him, I don't wish him dead, I don't wish harm to come to him, etc. I've also gone so far to say, "it's not my place to judge his wrong choices". However, is that true forgiveness?<br /><br />As I mulled over these thoughts my ego wanted to justifiably say 'yes', but in truth I don't think I had done so egolessly (new word--like it? lol) This is not to say that I hadn't forgiven him on some level, but today it seemed I needed to forgive him on another level. I realized my forgiveness was based solely on what I thought I was suppose to do in order to move forward in my life. This is not to say I haven't moved forward or evolved, but today was bringing something deeper.<br /><br />All this is processing through my head when all of a sudden I hear this gentle Spirit ask me, "have you walked a minute in his shoes to understand his reasons for doing what he did? or have you judged his reasons based on what you thought he should have done?" At this pivotal moment I realized I had never once imagined what he must have been going through to make the choices he made. Yes, I knew some of the terrible choices he made that placed himself and potentially Amira and I in some pretty bad situations, but never once had I actually metaphorically put myself in his place. At that very moment I felt what it was to forgive......to do so without prejudice, judgment, or justifications, but to just forgive.<br /><br />So, where does it go from here? Who knows, who cares.....what I do know is today he and I have been set free....no longer bound to one another due to unforgiveness. </span>ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-78874071759554479522013-12-24T08:19:00.002-08:002013-12-24T08:19:48.295-08:002013 - Looking back<em><span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">Greetings, </span></em><br />
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<em><span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">For us, 2013 started out a bit subdued as we (entire family) were in the throws of supporting Claudia (sister-in-law) through very aggressive forms of chemo/radiation treatments against cervical cancer. Her braveness and strength during the whole process will forevermore be remembered and revered greatly. She was, is and will always be, in my book, amazing. As of November 2013 Claudia’s doctors have told her they are amazed at her progress and that she is clear.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">In late February we traveled to southern California as our Aunt Judy passed, which coupled together with Claudia fighting against something so aggressive, resulted in some very reflective moments. Humbling time period for sure.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">On a lighter note, Amira and I delved into our perspective sports (gymnastics and belly dance) and had a great year doing so. Amira competed in three gymnastic competitions, resulting in winning the All-Round trophy for each competition. She competes in floor, vault, bars, and beam. She says her favorite is bars. She is absolutely amazing to watch, such poise, grace, elegance and strength. To see her so focused and disciplined is definitely motivating. As of the writing of this newsletter, Amira has been asked to try out for the competitive team and hopes to begin training in January.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">During this last year, I had the pleasure of performing at 6 different local belly dance events, with some of the most influential and supportive women I’ve been blessed to have in my life. </span></em><br />
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<em><span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">Along with our physical activities, we traveled a bit. During Amira’s spring break she and I took a mother/daughter overnight trip to San Francisco. We walked around the labyrinths at Grace Cathedral, wandered around Chinatown, absorbed the sights and sounds of the Japanese Tea Gardens, and drifted through Golden Gate Park as well as the Pacific Heights district of San Francisco. We had a glorious time.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">At the end of Amira’s spring break, dad returned from wintering in Arizona, and we finished off her break along with celebrating his return by spending a couple of days in Monterey.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">In July I conducted my first group class, which consisted of conducting a live demonstration on releasing old baggage (emotions). It was a thrilling event, and one I hope to build from in the future. My intention for 2014 is to continue to blend counseling/coaching with massage as well as conduct workshops/classes to empower others.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">At the end of summer, Dad, Amira and I took a weekend trip to Ferndale, which is located on the top northern coast of California. The drive was gloriously beautiful and the weekend of exploring the redwoods was magical.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">In November my friend Dawn assisted me with my 3rd annual massage fundraiser event, which this year’s charity was for Courage Worldwide. It’s an organization that helps girls who have been sex trafficked. Courage Worldwide has a recovery house in Loomis, which is the chapter we supported. Because of the outpour of support from others as well as my desire to assist in the empowerment of women, this particular charity will be one I continually support.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">This year, 2013, for many has been a year like no other. Globally we’ve witnessed some unbelievable events that will forever change the world, as we know it. Locally, our own homeland, we’ve witnessed some shocking, life altering events that will forever change the world, as we know it. Personally, specific to each individual, we’ve had unexpected changes (relationships, living environment, careers, etc.), experienced a plethora of physical and emotional disentanglements (learning to re-open our heart and feel), highs and lows of physical energy which will forever change the world as we know it, and yet through it all we have somehow remained in tack. How utterly amazing is that!</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">As we prepare for 2014 may we enter it with wonder, hope, and an open heart.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">With so much love</span></em><br />
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ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-44100332269207639132013-11-16T14:03:00.002-08:002013-11-16T14:03:32.202-08:00Becoming the thing you fear - sucksI woke this morning with this unsubtleness to break down and cry. Having an overwhelming feeling of ‘fatness’; a distinct feeling of disgust for my body that I haven’t felt in a very long time. Body aching terribly---jaw hurts, back of head near base of neck throbbing, joints are stiff, stomach hurts to bend over, and everything about my body feels stiff and bloated. Doing too much dancing on my toes and calves begin to cramp, and the tears slowly release. God help me, please.<br />
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For the longest time now I’ve lived in denial about my body.<br />
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When I was younger, I heard a repeated line, “your face is so pretty, and if you’d lose weight you’d be perfect”.<br />
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For years, I starved myself, became bulimic, and even physically hurt myself for being ‘fat’.<br />
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I tried every diet in the book---tried pills, different programs as well as doctors in an attempt to not be fat. I exercised 5 to 6 days a week. Pushed myself physically and mentally to not be fat.<br />
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I was a girl with a big butt and thick thighs and a waistline that was tiny in comparison. Hated everything about me from my waist down.<br />
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As the years went by I gave up having a scale in my house. I gave up feeling bad about food. Gave up counting fat, counting calories, counting carbs, counting glasses of water, counting protein…………counting of any kind.<br />
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I had a child over 10 years ago and have pretty much devoted my life to raising her. Every now and then I would get a ‘negative’ thought about food and/or my body and quickly push it away, telling myself to ‘feel’ better.<br />
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I now realize that over time I’ve traded my obsession with not being skinny to complete and utter ‘ignore’ with regards to all things associated with my body. It’s really no wonder I have no idea who the person is when I see pictures of myself.<br />
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I feel I’ve lost the battle of what I feared most being---fat, and have become that very thing---fat.<br />
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Yes, psychologically, I absolutely get it if someone else presents this to me, and I know what to do, but as of this moment I’m sitting before the individual (me), who just happened to have an Aw-Ha moment and feels like shit for realizing what she’s become.<br />
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It would be so wonderful to believe we could out smart ourselves, but truth be told---we can’t.<br />
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As we continue to be cracked wide open this year, with absolutely everything on the table---free from any hidden spots---I realize I must be with it all and FEEL....letting the reality that is be my release. As much as it absolutely SUCKS, it must be done.<br />
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ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-44325566132398148352013-11-02T15:13:00.001-07:002013-11-02T15:13:05.474-07:00Newest Member to Blogging<em><span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Greetings All,</span></em><br />
<em><span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I'd like to introduce the newest member to the Blogging community---my daughter, Amira.</span></em><br />
<a href="http://talesbyamira.blogspot.com/2013/11/introduction.html">http://talesbyamira.blogspot.com/2013/11/introduction.html</a>ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-71842652102178401992013-10-07T08:58:00.000-07:002013-10-07T08:58:53.514-07:00Amazing times we are living<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
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<i><span style="color: purple;"><span style="background-color: white;">Once again the flow of powerful fluctuating energy leaves me
bewildered and filled with awe at the same time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One minute feeling extremely fatigued, feverish, sinus
congestion, and listless, and the next minute feeling like a live electrical
wire, having so much energy that my body can barely contain itself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Literally experiencing these two extremes in
a matter of a couple of days. Craziness!</span></span></i></div>
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<i><span style="color: purple;"><span style="background-color: white;">With this highly electrical energy wave surging through, our
senses are definitely heightened, almost to the point of feeling painful.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sounds and pitches of peoples’ voices can be
a bit much as if those you are around have multiplied 10 fold.</span></span></i></div>
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<i><span style="color: purple;"><span style="background-color: white;">As many times as I’ve experienced this unexplainable,
magnificent energy of contract and expand during 2013, I’m still bewildered by
its appearance.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Perhaps it’s the
subtleness, the unexpected timing, the extreme polarities of highs and lows,
the physical impact felt in our physical bodies long after our brains have
processed the extremes, and yet magnificently through it all we remain.</span></span></i></div>
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<i><span style="color: purple;"><span style="background-color: white;">So many facets of our existence are being altered on an
unbelievably fast track.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Think about it
for just a second.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>During this year
alone, collectively/globally/universally (it can not be expressed enough that
what is happening to you as an individual is happening AROUND THE WORLD as
well) we’ve purged more of our emotional baggage (we see this in our social
medias, mainstream media, and in our own circle of people), shedding ourselves
of those things no longer serving us or weighing us down (have we not seen, at
least in the States, more Goodwill distribution centers popping up everywhere),
living spaces or situations being drastically changed, and personal
relationships being reviewed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As all
the above-mentioned situations have been going on, there’s also a sense of
community building, a subtle sense of compassion and sensitivity being
experienced on a grander scale.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Even
through all the physical, emotional, and spiritual highs and lows being felt
individually at different extremes and times, as a collective mass we seem to
be creating a global unity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is not
to say everything is going to be rosy and perfect, but what it does mean is we
are evolving as a species as we have been since the beginning of time, and that
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</span>How utterly exciting is it<span></span> to be a part of such a cycling change on
earth?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Not only as a species are we
evolving, but our planet is simultaneously as well.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>WOW!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Think about that
magnitude for just a minute…..if that doesn’t blow your mind for just a second
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earth?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Evolution or the changing of the
earth and its inhabitants is nothing new as we can look back over history to
see the earth’s plane has altered itself as well as plant life and animal
life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There’s even some documentation
stating most of human life had been wiped off the face of the earth due to
natural disasters and then started over again. So, how exciting to be part of
yet another evolutionary change and not being wiped off the face of the earth.
I know some will argue we are living the ‘end days’, but I ask you to p<span></span>onder,
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ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-81393962334125745482013-05-20T06:37:00.001-07:002013-05-20T06:37:55.047-07:00Overly Sensitive<div class="text_exposed_root text_exposed" id="id_519a261bb6c1d7785340113">
<span class="userContent" data-ft="{"tn":"K"}"><em><span style="color: purple;">Among the many things you may be experiencing as of late (i.e., physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual changes/challenges), I'd like to talk about being what some may consider "overly sensitive".<br /><br />For those among us who are very sensitive to energy – and that includes most everyone reading this – it is easy to pick up on and absorb what those around us are going through, mistaking it for our o<span class="text_exposed_hide">...</span></span></em><span class="text_exposed_show"><em><span style="color: purple;">wn feelings. Picture a high wattage lightbulb and how much electricity it gives off when you are near it. When you are around something like that you can hear the buzz and you can sometimes even feel that zhoozy, electricity feeling in the air. So as we’re all walking around, in our homes, workplaces and communities, we are feeling all the ‘electricity’ going through people that they are having a hard time processing. Where a person’s inner aspects are waking up and trying to get their attention, but are continuing to be ignored or repressed, that energy isn’t flowing as it should be. It keeps circulating around the body, generating the turbulence. So on some level, a sensitive observer can feel this, like it’s a combustion waiting to explode, or a dam about to burst. Sometimes we are aware we are picking up on the other person’s ‘stuff’, other times we don’t realise until later.<br /><br />It helps to say something like: “if this is not mine, please go back to your rightful owner with love.” The more we’ve cleared our stuff, and the more we know who we are, the easier it becomes to distinguish what is yours vs what is not.<br /><br />On the other hand, we should also realize we are still clearing within ourselves that part of ourselves we didn't even realize was still there. A part of ourselves we had no idea still had an impact on us.<br /><br />During this latest round of energy push-down, as I like to call it, I found myself once again feeling deep agonizing pain in my solarplex area. Lots of bloating, painful pressure whether sitting or standing, and certainly finding it difficult to digest food easily. Taking time to meditate and just be still, I decided to 'check in' with myself to see what still needed to be cleared as clearly this stomach 'issue' wasn't going away until I did. Or at least that's what I was feeling.<br /><br />Anyway, as I laid quietly just letting my thoughts wonder, I found myself drifting back to my childhood home in southern California. I saw myself in my bedroom, mad and crying (I was between 6 & 8). What disturbed me the most was seeing the self punishment I was giving myself. I was punching myself in the stomach as hard as I could, telling myself to stop. Stop what, you ask? Stop feeling! Stop receiving intuitive feelings and insight.<br /><br />I've known my whole life I receive intuitive guidance........my whole life! When I was 9 years old, I remember having a private conversation with my grandma and telling her what I saw and felt. I remember her getting quiet and touching me softly and saying, "honey, you have a special gift but we won't tell anyone about it because they won't understand and harm could come to you". I could remember feeling scared and wondering why would God give me this if it was going to get me hurt. <br /><br />Over my lifetime since then I've denied or at best kept it to myself what I felt or saw and just stored all that denial........stuffing it into my stomach. This all became clear last Friday evening.<br /><br />I found myself laying in a pile of tears feeling so bad for that little girl part of me that punished herself so brutally for not understanding. I found myself crying for my grandmother who did what she thought was right for me at such a young age. It was during this time that I realized what I needed to do. I needed to release any unforgiveness I had, any wrongdoing I had done to myself, and the hate I had for having a 'gift'. In doing so, I could feel my stomach start to move, and over the last 3 days my stomach has improved far beyond anything I've experienced in the last year.<br /><br />It is by far not feeling 100% well, but then again there's been a great many years between my early childhood and now filled with denial, pain and anquish that it now needs to be cleansed, comforted, and guided back to complete health.<br /><br />One may ask if such a thing is possible when one's body has been in a dis-eased for so long, and the answer is yes.<br /><br />I now acknowledge and accept that for some reason I've been blessed as many, if not all, of us have with the gift of intuition on some level or another. As I've been working specificially with massage clients over the years, and have seen with my own physical eyes and felt inside my body (what is often referred to as a "gut feeling") information I woudn't ordinarily know, I can no longer deny this gift of intuition.<br /><br />I accept this divine blessing, and give thanks for it. I consider it a great honor to serve as a conduit in other's healing or perhaps better stated, wellness.......for after all that's where we are headed. <br /><br />So as you continue along your journey of clearing and cleansing this month, I encourage you to do so with ease and grace. As your sensitive side is enhanced even more, remember to ground yourself.</span></em></span></span></div>
ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-35206874215226149272013-03-04T14:08:00.000-08:002013-03-04T14:08:00.477-08:00Determination, Focus, and Practice equals Success<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">
<span style="color: blue;">Following the Summer Olympics last year, Amira decided she really wanted to try gymnastics.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We found a gymnastics’ facility not far from our house and signed her up for a month worth of classes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After two weeks of classes, her teacher decided Amira needed to advance to another level as she was already more than capable of handling the moves being presented in the entry level class.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;">Realizing Amira really had a love for the sport, decided to keep enrolling her in classes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>During the second month of her classes, her teacher once again approached me and said there was a competition coming up in February and she really believed Amira would be a great fit for their team.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So began the competition training as well as continued weekly classes.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;">The competition was to be held at California State University Sacramento on February 23, 2013.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She was thrilled, excited and nervous all at the same time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Amira is not a morning person, but on the day of the performance she had no problem waking up early…..lol funny how that works.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;">We arrived at the gym early and found front row seats.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The energy in the air was exhilarating, and all the performers stood tall and proud.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;">There were four routines the girls could do, the beam, the vault, the floor, and the uneven bars.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Amira participated in all four routines.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;">After all the performances were completed and scores were tallied, all the gymnasts and their coaches sat in the middle of the floor awaiting their results. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You could feel the anticipation and excitement, I think even more from the crowd and coaches than the gymnasts themselves. </span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;">Amira received a 3<sup>rd</sup> place in the vault, a 2<sup>nd</sup> place from the floor, a 1st place on the uneven bars and a 1<sup>st</sup> place on the beam.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was all very exciting to see all the gymnasts approach the stage and receive their ribbons.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After the ribbons for each routine was passed out they then awarded medals to those that competed in the All Around (competing in all four events).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Amira was not awarded a medal in this event because she actually won 1<sup>st</sup> place in this event, which afforded her a trophy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She was so thrilled and beamed with pride at winning her first trophy. </span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;">I know I couldn’t be more proud of her for her accomplishment for she truly put her heart and soul into practicing diligently and focusing on what she was being taught from her coaches.</span></div>
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ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-29726186919352453322013-01-29T07:49:00.001-08:002013-01-29T07:49:43.513-08:00Why Bullying Contiues - Lack of Accountability<div class="MsoNormal" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">
<span style="color: purple;"><em>Are you kidding me right now?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In this day and age when the media is continually running ad campaigns of the need to stop bullying, it seems to continue being alive and well.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Amira has been the victim of bullying from a girl in her class pretty much since the start of this school year (August 2012).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was not aware of this happening until her astute teacher brought it to my attention at our parent/teacher conference (October 2012).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Amira was with me during this conference and between her teacher and I we discussed what had been going on with this other girl and reassuring Amira that no one has the right to say or touch her in anyway.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He acknowledged to Amira he knows she’s (Amira) a kind, respectful person and for her to understand speaking up for herself is not a sign of being unkind or disrespectful.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Learning what was going on in class and how her teacher was attentive to the situation gave me a sense of comfort.</em></span></div>
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<span style="color: purple;"><em>As the school year progressed this little girl’s behavior towards Amira escalated gradually. First it was telling fabricated stories, and then it was doing an inappropriate act during the class picture resulting in not only disrespecting Amira personally but the entire class as well.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Bringing the class picture to the teacher caused him to even step up his vigilance over this little girl.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Tightening the reigns on her movement in class.</em></span></div>
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<span style="color: purple;"><em>Although things seemed to remain under control in class because of the separation and lack of movement around the class on this little girl’s part, the taunting continued during lunch recess, and has since spread to other children (a classmate and friend Amira hangs out with).</em></span></div>
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<span style="color: purple;"><em>The final straw that has broke the camel’s back was when I learned this little bully spit on Amira as well as the other above-mentioned classmate.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She’s a sneaky one all right and clearly knows exactly what she’s doing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Like a lion waiting patiently to attack its prey, she waited for the opportune time to attack these two girls the moment the teacher left to take his lunch break.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When Amira told me about this latest situation, I immediately contacted the teacher, as this was completely unacceptable. The school has a program called ‘peer mediation’ where two parties can bring their dispute to the table for a panel of their peers to help them resolve the matter.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Unbeknownst to me the school asked Amira and this girl if they would elect to go to peer mediation, as this is one of the countless steps that are taken according to the policies and procedures of the school.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After finding out Amira attended this session I was very upset, as I did not think this particular situation (spitting on someone) was a ‘peer mediation’ dispute as much as I saw it as a physical assault.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My understanding is a dispute is when two or more parties have a disagreement about something and need assistance solving the dispute, NOT a victim and an assailant sitting together discussing the assault.</em></span></div>
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<span style="color: purple;"><em>The teacher’s next step was to have a face-to-face with the parents to discuss their child’s behavior.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The result of this meeting was after much discussing the teacher was able to get the parents to concede that it MIGHT be possible their child is conducting herself inappropriately, BUT that they (parents) believe their child is not malicious but rather not aware of her actions.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>ARE YOU KIDDING ME????</em></span></div>
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<span style="color: purple;"><em>After discussing this issue with the Vice Principal last week, I realize even with today’s mass media awareness of bullying so many want to continue believing we don’t live in that reality.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When discussing the issue with the VP last week her response to me was, “first of all that is absolutely disgusting to be spit on, on the other hand we should be thankful we don’t live in East L.A.”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I just about lost my mind at this statement.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>How can someone live in such ignorance that it’s not happening around us?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>East L.A., City of Stockton, or any other overly crime-ridden town didn’t get that way over night. In order to change old ways, patterns and behaviors we must first acknowledge it’s possible they exists.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If we cannot even do the basics of acknowledging such things exists, those existing things just continue to perpetuate out of control. Oy!</em></span></div>
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<span style="color: purple;"><em>As of this afternoon I have a meeting with the school to discuss these unacceptable and preposterous situations. I expect to receive a copy of their written policies and procedures for handling bullying, as well as inquire as to their written policies and procedures for aiding and assisting victims of bullying.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I use the word ‘inquire’ about victims’ protection, as I’d be surprised if they have anything as of yet.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I’m also asking for copies of any/all notes, reports, etc that have been documented this far on this child.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I’m also expecting the school to tell me how this child has been made to adhere to the teachings of Maria Montessori (some of the basic teachings of Maria Montessori are teaching accountability, responsibility and respectfulness).</em></span></div>
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ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-20832659222738253012013-01-14T07:39:00.000-08:002013-01-14T07:39:03.454-08:00Between Before and After<div class="text_exposed_root text_exposed" id="id_50f42401b95038f51541367">
<span class="userContent"><span style="color: purple;"><em>How many thought that the time of great awakening, in comparison to the era preceding it, would be a little like the before and after photo’s of a weight loss story: two dramatically different images with one being heavy and sad, the other being light and joyously happy? We’ve all carried some form of ‘before and after’ images in our minds concerning the way we imagined/felt/intuited life would lo<span class="text_exposed_hide">...</span></em></span><span class="text_exposed_show"><span style="color: purple;"><em>ok 2013 and beyond, however just like the weight loss photo’s, we may not have had any images depicting the amount of time and active steps it takes to get from ‘before’ to ‘after’ – particularly the amount of time and active steps it takes to get a whole humanity from ‘before’ to after’, to get whole systems from ‘before’ to ‘after’ including politics, media, health, education, environment conservation, social welfare, justice, sustainable housing, corporations, finance etc.<br /><br />The point being to continue striving forward in your daily life, knowing that the process between "before and after" is still in affect. It's like hitting a plateau along the journey of weight-loss. During such a period of time it seems, on the outside (scale, clothes, etc.), NOTHING is changing and we become frustrated and disappointed in the process. However, in reality what is transpiring during this time period is a shift within ourselves thus allowing for the next phase to unfold, (another drop of weight or perhaps inches) which will reveal itself on the outside, showing us our progress. Progress and transformation are truly done from the inside/out. <br /><br />Knowing what this process (still using the weight-loss scenario as an example) takes for an individual to achieve, can you imagine what it is like for an entire planet of individuals? Overwhelming to assume, for sure. However, just as you continue to strive, achieve and change know you are not alone and that others struggle and cheer at their journey's process as well. I believe the goal here is to be as supportive with yourself during the process as you are with others. For truly, many of us are far gentler, supportive and kind in others' pursuits than we are of our own. Should you be someone who continually gives (in whatever fashion) to others and less to yourself, you may want to evaulate the thoughts/beliefs that you hold onto that tells you, "I'd be selfish if I thought of myself", because you are just as important to the process of change. We must each allow ourselves to balance the scales of giving and receiving to continue the process of transformation.<br /><br />As we continue down the road of awakening (systems, thoughts, beliefs, ways of doing business that need overhauled) and transformation (evaulating your own thoughts/beliefs, effective changes gradually being made around the world), know we ARE in the process between "before and after".</em></span></span></span></div>
ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-11422474188850441592012-12-25T10:21:00.001-08:002012-12-25T10:21:39.607-08:00Annual Holiday Letter<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">
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<span style="color: windowtext;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><em><span style="color: #351c75;">As Amira and I clinked our fluted glasses filled with sparkling apple cider at mid-night on January 1, 2012 we vowed to make the New Year a year of being fancy and adventurous. Little did we know we’d be taking Mr. Toad’s Wild Ride to a whole new level!<o:p></o:p></span></em></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: windowtext;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><em><span style="color: #351c75;">Beginning New Year’s Day we took a spontaneous road-trip to Santa Rosa, Ca, to the home of Snoopy’s Ice Rink. We spent a glorious day there along with exploring the Charles Schultz museum.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was a perfect way to start 2012.<o:p></o:p></span></em></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: windowtext;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><em><span style="color: #351c75;">At the end of March, beginning of April we arranged a surprise birthday/family reunion trip to San Diego for my dad. We rented a beautiful home just a few short blocks from the water.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The Brown Clan and the Leboda Clan (Arizona family) had a grand week in southern California.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Memories that will last a lifetime!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Two days before leaving I fell down a flight of stairs and broke my ankle in two places. This however did not stop us from enjoying the last days of San Diego. However, it did take me out of work for more than 6 weeks.<o:p></o:p></span></em></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: windowtext;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><em><span style="color: #351c75;">During my hiatus, Clint and I discovered we had an older sister named Terri and met her at the end of May.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In some ways it’s still very surreal yet very natural at the same time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We’ve certainly enjoyed getting to know one another and spending time together.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Turns out she lives in Arizona. What a small world!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We’ve since introduced her to the Leboda Clan, which has been a great experience as well.<o:p></o:p></span></em></span></span></div>
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<em><span style="color: #351c75;">Lets see what did we do? Hmmmmmmmmmmm. Oh yes, I began back to work part time at the beginning of June and by mid to late June I was back full time. However, due to being off for 9 weeks it was now like starting all over again. I needed to rebuild my clientele. Truly we here in America have a short attention span. I didn't think 9 weeks was all that long, but apparently to some it was a lifetime, so they moved on. Rebuilding a clientele as well as those being on summer holidays it's been rather challenging to say the least, but I'm still hopeful for improvement.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="color: #351c75;">For 4th of July/Amira's birthday we had a big family bbq at our house and my sister and niece (who I met for the first time) came in from Arizona to enjoy the festivities. It was an amazing few days.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="color: #351c75;">August came and went with my birthday mingled in the middle. This year for my birthday I was not feeling very festive, but rather feeling like I needed some alone time, so I received a massage from a friend at the clinic I work at and then grabbed a cup of coffee and spend it at the cemetary with my mom. Although it's still very hard to go there, there's such an amazing sense of peace and calmness that lingers. It was just what I needed to sit, be still and shed unspoken tears.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="color: #351c75;">After being inspired from watching the Olympics, Amira decided she wanted to try gymastics. So, three weeks ago we found a gymnastics place a couple miles down the road and she's been going once a week since then and has thoroughly enjoyed every minute. She's getting so good at doing handstands that I'm expecting one day to find her walking through the house on her hands. </span></em><br />
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<em><span style="color: #351c75;">Towards the later part of August she returned to school (4th grade) and has been both excited as well as challenged by the experience. She was excited to get back to school and learn as she loves it, but has not been thrilled with the idea of having to do oral reports. Although she's been gradually doing them since 1st grade, this year seems to be more challenging than others......and she hasn't even done the first one yet. She's in a 4th, 5th, 6th grade combo, so I'm sure she's feeling a little insecure because of the older kids, although the majority of the class is 4th graders. Moreover, I have a feeling they are introducing new concepts and that's stretching her a little bit. All good stuff....just hate to see her stress herself out over the oral reports.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="color: #351c75;">Doing another breast health awareness fundraiser towards the end of October. Doing it solo this year as my partner is out on disability as a result of injuring herself massaging. I do have someone who has offered to help should I have any couples massages, so am grateful. Hoping this fundraiser do just as well as last year and better.</span></em>ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-3788535016554682272012-05-29T07:58:00.000-07:002012-05-29T09:34:25.848-07:00Feel the fear and face it anyway(Disclaimer - as with most of my post they are written from a raw standpoint with little or no editing)<br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: purple;"><em>There were various times throughout my entire life when I had this sense that something was amiss. Imagine as a kid feeling like you were adopted or at best unwanted by your mom. I can remember specifically asking my mom at different ages in my life if I was adopted to which she would admittedly say, “why would you ask that? Of course you’re not adopted”. Although I heard these words there was always something deeper inside me that didn’t entirely believe this. Maybe it was because my mom and I throughout my life had a tumultuous relationship. Some would describe it as a ‘normal’ mother/daughter relationship and maybe that’s true. I loved my mom dearly and wanted nothing more than to please her and make her proud.</em></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: purple;"><em>Upon returning from a great vacation/dad’s birthday celebration/family reunion with a broken leg, I receive a letter from my aunt (mom’s sister) with an additional letter attached to it. Upon reading my aunt’s letter, I was a bit confused because she was referring to someone I didn’t know.</em></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: purple;"><em>My dad and I were sitting at my kitchen table when I read the enclosed letter my aunt had sent. The second letter was a letter from my half sister. Yep, you read that correctly, my half sister.</em></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: purple;"><em>It was agreed upon by all the parties involved to never discuss this situation. However, I can’t help but believe on some levels my mom either questioned her decision or at least mourned the situation as there were certain times during the year where she’d become really melancholy, and when we’d ask her what was wrong she'd tell us, ‘nothing’. </em></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: purple;"><em>Yesterday was the day. Yesterday was the day Clint and I would walk through a door that would possibly change our world forever. Yesterday was the day Clint and I would make a decision that would ultimately change the lives of our children as well. Our dad was fully behind our decision to face this long family secret. All three of us (Dad, Clint and I) agreed that our half sister, Teri, should know the truth as we knew it, for we all could not imagine what it would be like to be in her shoes looking for her family for almost 30 years. According to the letter I read, she had established a relationship with our Grandma some years back, but was only given snippets of information about us out of respect for my mom.</em></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: purple;"><em>Sitting in my backyard yesterday, where I find so much solitude and peace, I began journaling my thoughts to process the feelings that were causing pain and fear, and as I did, the tears just seemed to flow. At one point, I found Amira next to me hugging me asking me if everything was ok. I immediately collected myself, as parents always feel they have to put on a brave front for their children……silly really, and looked into her angelic face. I told her I was ok, but that I was just processing some feelings. She said, “is it because of meeting your sister?” I told her it was, and then we spent the next thirty minutes or so exchanging our thoughts and feelings about many things. We talked about her nervousness of having to give oral book reports at school and what that feels like for her. I shared that sometimes I don’t feel very good about myself because my mom use to tell me I was fat and ugly, to which she said, “That’s not very nice”. I told her she was right. I then went on to explain to her that the reason I tell her, maybe more than she’d like to hear, how much I love her, how proud I am of her, and how much I think she is beautiful and amazing is because I didn’t hear these words much, and certainly not all of them, when I was growing up. At the end of our conversation, she hugged me and told me, “don’t worry I’ll be there with you today”, which spilled more tears but in a good way.</em></span><br />
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<em><span style="color: #351c75;">These two also keep me from being approachable.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Meaning: giving the impression to others that I don’t need anyone.</span></em></div>
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<em><span style="color: #351c75;">I could probably be a Mensa Member, yet I lack the fortitude to allow myself to be vulnerable enough to open up to attract a partner.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Letting go of any kind of fear has to be the most challenging thing on earth.</span></em></div>
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<em><span style="color: #351c75;">There are so many of us that I hear say (self included), “I never want to hurt anyone” or “it would kill me if I hurt someone”, yet in the process we never realize or acknowledge we are sometimes sacrificing ourselves in the process which is ultimately hurting us.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Somehow in our justified reasoning we say, “I’d rather hurt myself than someone else” or “I’d rather take their pain for them so they don’t have to go through that”. Why? Why do we choose to do that?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s as if somehow we are being self-less.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Are we? </span></em><em><span style="color: #351c75;">Is this really being self-less or are we just being self-sabotaging along the way for the sake of others?</span></em></div>
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Why is it that we have to experience all these things……all these emotions and feelings? Really, what is the purpose? In the big scheme of things, what are we all suppose to be doing on this journey called ‘life’?<br /><br />I visualize us being in a human maze with no real direction, no real sense of knowing how big or long the maze really is because we don’t get an overhead preview. Would it make any real difference if we did have an overview? Would we rationalize to ourselves when the actual journey of the maze seemed endless that there’s a beginning and an end and we are somewhere in between, with no attachment to feelings, or feeling happy for the experience, frustration for not recalling all the details of the previewed maze, or disappointment because as prepared or as strong as we may have been for the journey, it did not end up the way we wanted?<br /><br />As happy and optimistic as I may be in my life, I’m certainly not exempt from feeling disappointment, sadness and depression. As much as I can see the good in everything, I’m always surprised when depression and/or stress enter my being.<br /><br />I think what always brings on these feelings is a result of human interaction. The ending of a job, schooling, project, or any other material thing we can image, doesn’t seem to have quite the impact as the ending of a human relationship, whether an ending of a life, friendship, intimate relationship, etc., the pain seems to always be the same, unbearable.<br /><br />I’ve recently experienced some physical health issues that have been a result of stress and sadness, and it scared me. Thankfully, it wasn’t my heart as I suspected; it was more along the lines of an ulcer and vertigo. However, not experiencing these physical symptoms before really concerned me. As much as I thought I could talk (reasoning mind) myself out of thinking the worst, my mind (thinking) also scared me to suspect the worst. It’s amazing; really, how powerful our thought process can affect us either positively or negatively.<br /><br />Of course, reasoning mind says, “this too shall pass”; however, my emotional and physical being is currently experiencing anguish.<br /><br />I think the worst part for me is the feeling of being once again exposed. When you have any kind of personal relationship, you make yourself somewhat vulnerable by revealing your (strengths and weaknesses) to another, and then when they are gone you are left feeling vulnerably exposed.</em><br /><br /><em>“The pain I feel now is the happiness I had before. That’s the deal.” ~C.S. Lewis</em>ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-43230908337532714222012-01-21T06:11:00.000-08:002012-01-21T06:18:24.255-08:00Finally Exhaled<span style="color:#6600cc;"><em>With 2012 starting off like a sprinting race it has been non-stop go, go, go. The anticipation of the “new” to come and the many plans put in place for at least the first half of this year, it seems today (21 days into the New Year), I decided to exhale. Until this morning when I woke myself up with tears running down my cheeks, I realized I had been holding my breath this whole time. I suppose having this feeling of having so much to do (all good and desirable things), and the anticipation of how to manage it all, just momentarily took my breath away.<br /><br />It’s funny in life how some times, for example, you have no idea you’re even holding your breath until that exact moment of exhale.<br /><br />I suppose if I was to narrow things down and put a finger on the exact thing that caused me to hold my breath, I’d have to say it’s ‘change’. I can feel change of some kind in the air, and like most people change can be challenging. For me, if I’m honest with myself, I think I love the sense of ‘safeness’ in known routine. I love the since of ‘security’ in predictability. Mind you, I realize these terms of safeness and security are all just relative since change is inevitable, but nonetheless there’s that sense that gives us comfort. <br /><br />Even if one’s existing circumstances are not as desirable as one would like, there’s still that sense of predictability that seem more tolerable than ‘unknown’ change. <br /><br />On the other hand, preparing for a significant life altering change (wedding, career, family addition, purchasing a home, etc.) can be both exhilarating and somewhat terrifying all at the same time.<br /><br />It seems once one goes through some kind of change or transition in their life, things eventually work themselves back into a state of predictability and calm, which is somehow comforting.<br /><br />In my situation, it’s perhaps that not knowing at the moment what the change is, but rather just a ‘feeling’ of a life altering change is about to happen, which probably explains the unnoticeable breath holding I’ve been doing until this morning.<br /><br />Here’s to remembering to breath. :0)</em></span>ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-20375298472551158412011-11-12T08:15:00.000-08:002011-11-12T08:23:59.196-08:00Amira's First of Many Experiences<div align="left"><br /></div><br /><div align="left"><span style="color:#330033;"><em>A week ago, Friday, Amira’s school had their annual Harvest Festival, which consist of food, crafts, community gathering and this year a talent show.<br /><br />About a month prior to the Harvest Festival, Amira came home from school and announced that she wanted to sign up with one of her classmates for the talent show. Internally I was shocked because of her severe shyness, but externally I showered her with encouragement and support. She shared they were going to do a scene from Alice In Wonderland Jr., the musical. All new to me, but was excited for her nonetheless for her adventurous nature. She practiced everyday when she had free time.<br /><br />A week prior to the Harvest Festival she even took her backpack to school with a few dresses and shoes to show her friend so they could decide what they were going to wear for their play.<br /><br />The day of the Harvest Festival, Amira packed her backpack with all her wears and went off to school. At 4:30 that evening my dad and I arrived to greet Amira and assist with any last minute preparations for the big show. We also ran into her little friend that was equally as excited, nervous and ready to go.<br /><br />Beings this was the school’s first year at having a talent show at the Harvest Festival, it was a bit unorganized leaving families uncertain as to where, when and what time the show was suppose to take place.<br /><br />Like sheep we followed a flock to a classroom where we all gathered for the big event. You could clearly tell Amira was nervous but wanted to play it ‘cool’ around the other kids. The program directory was passed out and the talent show attendees where asked to sit up front. Amira’s little friend was still not in the room when the talent show began, which added greatly to Amira’s nervousness.<br /><br />Amira’s name was finally called to step up, to which she did, but to tell the director that her friend was not here yet. Ugh! She returned to her seat and anxiously awaited her friend’s arrival.<br /><br />A few acts later and her friend finally arrives. Amira runs back up to the director of the program and advises her that her friend has arrived, so they let the two of them go to center stage with a microphone in Amira’s hand. The room is silent and still. The two girls look out at the crowd, then look at one another. Amira’s eyes begin to wail up and she puts her hand around her throat. Her friend’s eyes are like a deer looking in headlights – wide as can be. They just stand there. Finally the director whispers to them, “it’s ok, you can sit down”. The two girls walk off the staging area. Everyone claps.<br /><br />We make it through the remainder of the talent show, then Amira comes up to me barely holding back from crying and I grab her hand. She doesn’t not want much comforting as she’s seconds away from losing it and doesn’t want to do it in front of everyone.<br /><br />We make our way to the car. Once inside we both start bawling like babies. I feel so horrible for how she’s feeling. She’s embarrassed and can’t stop crying. She wants to just go home. We held hands all the way home, and talked about the show. I shared with her how proud of her I was, and how proud others were of her for taking such a big step, as they know how shy she is. She tells me that when she looked out at the audience she was surprised how many people were there, and that Patrick’s advice (from Spongebob) of visualizing people in their underwear did not help AT ALL. I shared with her my experience of having to say or do something in front of people and how it made me feel. Hearing this seemed to help calm her nerves.<br /><br />When we got home I asked if she wanted to share some hot tea together and she said that she did. As I was preparing the tea she decided to get this book she gave me last year which was a book of Maxine quotes (see below the first page of the book she turned too).<br /><br />When I brought her a cup of tea, I found her crying again. I asked what happened and she said she got the “Maxine” book out as she thought it would cheer her up, but instead she said, “I opened the very first page and this is what I saw”.</em></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /></div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5674144771950527362" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 240px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgH72l6ElM31yIPpiFiZs7_D5WHbbP864MQyT34AW6sehjqS6vBLDHjw_WnpG1dTaUwAuQB61W5V78Uz6H_eEjv7rGkwnxy8utWGy4Nhtsl1GFJh0S4gRMPHGr908fsGWtAE7gILaDAtzDY/s400/194143_10150145638309776_500139775_6377695_5025013_o.jpg" border="0" /> <br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#330033;"><em>Maxine can be so cold sometimes. LOL</em></span></div>ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-73477033985388895072011-11-08T06:04:00.000-08:002011-11-08T06:19:12.934-08:00Fundraiser<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjpX3KMptddhyhoZGjdHvtI5-HwYUM9LKzYamyLbGiS9Udt6I0MLvJlXsxrHGt5EnphqK0KLQhljsRe1BUKYClgk264XJPT5QAjRW3CDPJNOIfh5OcgMTegTSzapOhzJw-PqOO1Ofli-UrU/s1600/4CA5XL0SNCA89N162CAB2G206CA8RCI3ZCAYQ8UMJCAQZWOKDCAUVVK1TCA09SRD7CASI095WCA1GO1OECAU7B2T0CA3EOMZKCAIMHR3MCA0FWSLMCAJXKUX4CAP8YBJECAWNJIVJCAMA6J8Q.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5672626889746009266" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 143px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 48px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjpX3KMptddhyhoZGjdHvtI5-HwYUM9LKzYamyLbGiS9Udt6I0MLvJlXsxrHGt5EnphqK0KLQhljsRe1BUKYClgk264XJPT5QAjRW3CDPJNOIfh5OcgMTegTSzapOhzJw-PqOO1Ofli-UrU/s400/4CA5XL0SNCA89N162CAB2G206CA8RCI3ZCAYQ8UMJCAQZWOKDCAUVVK1TCA09SRD7CASI095WCA1GO1OECAU7B2T0CA3EOMZKCAIMHR3MCA0FWSLMCAJXKUX4CAP8YBJECAWNJIVJCAMA6J8Q.jpg" border="0" /></a><span style="color:#330033;"><em> Had an amazing weekend, last weekend. Conducted my first fundraising event. With the assistance of a friend of mine, we conducted a breast cancer awareness fundraiser. We've since changed the name to breast health awareness since we don't want our focus to be on cancer awareness, but rather on health awareness.</em></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><em></em></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><em>We conducted a massage marathon. Two days of massaging with proceeds going to the Susan G. Komen foundation for research.</em></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><em></em></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><em>Was a little nervous at first as there's a lot to consider and prepare for in pulling off such an event, but thankfully everything fell into place seemingly effortlessly.</em></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><em></em></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><em>Feeling so blessed and thankful for such an experience, the next plan is to do another fundraiser in the spring but on a bigger scale. Still considering the cause to support, but have it narrowed down to either something for children, diabetics, or abused women.</em></span>ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-50484347954382494322011-10-20T19:37:00.000-07:002011-10-20T20:26:43.703-07:00Crumbling & Dismantling<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEht_R5kz8MTAiUIfY98DDKZws1yXZRooFxLCLfNxedreLlnFp0hRL5uFv1nyj2bHGYKT7cZEW7zMX6rIsckhNBAfU30G8MM3An75qhvNroo8QAi39_vKXXkNYNlBMIU3e33tO1qRu6blKX7/s1600/freeeeeeeeed.jpg"><span style="color:#006600;"><em><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5665781313188243762" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 266px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEht_R5kz8MTAiUIfY98DDKZws1yXZRooFxLCLfNxedreLlnFp0hRL5uFv1nyj2bHGYKT7cZEW7zMX6rIsckhNBAfU30G8MM3An75qhvNroo8QAi39_vKXXkNYNlBMIU3e33tO1qRu6blKX7/s400/freeeeeeeeed.jpg" border="0" /></em></span></a><em><span style="color:#009900;">As the walls crumble and the antiquated structures are dismantled, freedom is making its way all around the globe. What an exciting time to be living on planet earth. I feel so blessed and grateful to be a part of this time period. May we continue to learn more, so we can do better.<br /></span></em><br /><em><span style="color:#009900;">“Life without liberty is like a body without spirit.” ~Kahlil Gibran<br /></span></em><br /><div></div><br /><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><br /><div></div>ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-63002902676319097362011-09-27T06:34:00.000-07:002011-09-27T07:03:21.128-07:00Movement<span style="color:#6600cc;"><em>For the last couple of years it seems like we’ve been experiencing a pattern. Or perhaps it’s just that I’ve become more aware of time. In any event, during the last couple of years, each year starts out rather uneventful then around the middle of the year things really start to pick up speed. Certainly this year has been no exception. Although the world on a hold has been extremely active, it seems these activities have in some ways caused us all to stop or at best slow down. For certainly this year has been a show stopper on many fronts with the global economy dangling by a thread, tsunami in Japan, the unemployment situation in the U.S. (not to be elevated above any other countries unemployment situation—just it’s in my own back yard, so to speak), and the uprising/uprooting taking place in northern Africa to name a few. Needless to say someone, somewhere has been affected by these global events, which has caused them to stop or at best slow down. Perhaps these events have caused them to be present in their own lives for the first time in a very long time. I know on more than one occasion I’ve been halted in my tracks to stop and refocus to present time which was a true blessing, but yet at times so difficult to do when you’re so use to going a million miles another.<br /><br />I’m not sure why we have this need, and possibly it’s just myself, to constantly be on the go, whether for family, work, education, etc. Even taking time for spiritual devotion (prayer) seems to be scheduled amidst all our other doings. Where did this way of thinking come from? This is not to say that I believe we should all be sitting around being unproductive, but maybe more reflective on how we spend our daily time. I think a lot of our daily living is not reflected on more than “this is what I have to do to survive”. Is that entirely true? Could we possibly live a different way and still survive?<br /><br />Maybe, just maybe, these last couple of years of starting out rather uneventful and eventually progressing into more activity is nature’s way of slowing us down. Maybe it’s God’s way of giving us a gentle nudge to redirect our focus and reprioritize our lives. In any event, I feel blessed to be a part of this planet at this time of life to see the dynamic events unfold before the world as well as experience all the changes happening around us.</em></span><br /><br /><span style="color:#6600cc;"><em>How do you feel about the times we are living in?</em></span>ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-70533258630659756272011-08-07T07:25:00.000-07:002011-08-07T07:27:08.530-07:00Time - My Nemesis"Be mindful of how you approach time. Watching the clock is not the same as watching the sun rise." -- Sophia Bedford-Pierce<br /><br />Time has been my nemesis this summer, for literally it feels like I’m constantly battling for more of it.<br /><br />From June until the current date, we have been going non-stop. We’ve had family and friends visiting with no break in between visits to recuperate and recharge for the next round, and I’m definitely starting to feel it. We have one more week until all company leaves and then a 3-day break before Amira starts back to school.<br /><br />I don’t mean to sound ungrateful or unappreciative of the visits----not at all. In fact, some of the best memories and unexpected visits I ever expected to have, which was a wonderful delight. I’m just feeling the exhaustion of no down time and irregular routine. Funny that I would even ponder the thoughts of an irregular routine as that’s never been an issue for me before; however, over the last few years I’ve made more of a concerted effort for quiet time at home, so am perhaps feeling the affects of no quiet/recharge time.<br /><br />I know Amira has been feeling the affects as well as she’s had lower energy charge than usual. Aside from all the visitors, which include lots of activities, sleep loss, and over-stimulation from everything and everyone, she also attended a day camp this summer for the first time. This day camp was close to my work, which was convenient for both of us. Her activities included swimming 2 days a week, a weekly field trip, and a day of games and rock wall climbing. It was an amazing camp and she seemed to thoroughly enjoy herself.<br />Struggling for time seems so funny to me, and yet it’s the one thing that seems to interrupt the balance of our lives. Well, we are off to a wedding for a friend’s daughter. Until next time, be well. Ramadan Kareem!ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-13762935837062313482011-05-15T07:31:00.000-07:002011-05-15T07:47:18.862-07:00Pondering the Extreme Highs and Lows<em><span style="color:#336666;">It feels we are definitely embarking on new territory as the days continue to pass. As unsettling and disturbing as some of the events are unfolding globally, I’m excited and looking forward to seeing the final outcome.<br /><br />With events ranging from great excitement and joy to events ranging from grievous hardship, it can be taxing both on one’s psyche and physical being because they are occurring expeditiously as well as concurrently.</span></em><br /><em><span style="color:#336666;"></span></em><br /><em><span style="color:#336666;">When one is grieving from such tragic hardship, are they even capable of finding that inner peace of calmness that still remains embedded in them?<br /><br />When one is ecstatic from such wondrous joy, is there a part of them that feels a sense of guilt for feeling such a high because of the other tragic events of the world?<br /><br />It seems as humans and perhaps because of certain beliefs held, spoken or unspoken for centuries, we can easily accept (perhaps ‘accept’ is not the right word)…..adapt or cope with the negative aspects of life more obsequiously than the positive. For it seems the moments of great joy are fleeting and expected to only last a short period of time. And yet, on the other hand there doesn’t seem to necessarily be an expected timelimit on dealing with difficult times. Why is that? Why are the struggling times painfully endurable when the joyous times spent seem so fleeting? It’s almost as if we’ve been engrained to deal with the difficult, and in some ways feel a tinge of guilt or unworthiness in celebrating our joy. Perhaps guilt and unworthiness are a little harsh, but my point is I’ve seen countless times those that are in a good place in their life almost shyly sharing their joy with their friends or family that may be going through a difficult time. In the same vain, those going through difficult times don’t seem to have such challenges in sharing with someone, whose experiencing a great joy in their life, their trials. Why is that?<br /><br />Commonsense tells us that we do not all evolve at the same pace. Moreover, we do not all share the same joys or trials simultaneously. Thank God! Could you imagine? What if we were all suffering at the same time, who would be the one(s) to uplift and support us? On the flipside, how amazing would it be to live joyously and harmoniously together? The funny thing is, I know that last sentence would be received by some with a roll of the eyes and a thought of “yeah, right!” To which I would wonder, why not? We as humans are amazing creatures. We have proven time and time again how incredibly talented, smart, tender, compassionate, creative, etc., we are, so, why can’t we unilaterally tame our egos to be more supportive of one another?<br /><br />Sending warm wishes and love to all. </span></em>ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-43728523971254822832011-03-20T08:28:00.000-07:002011-03-20T08:30:22.848-07:00Keep 'fear' in check<em><span style="color:#333399;">With these trying times of natural disasters, heinous violence against humans, day-to-day stressors of life, and the bombardment of news pelting us from all angles, one could literally make them self sick with worry. </span></em><br /><em><span style="color:#333399;"></span></em><br /><em><span style="color:#333399;">Remember to take deep breaths throughout the day, say a favorite mantra or prayer, and even sing your favorite tune just to remind yourself you are alive and present. Do what you can to help which includes taking care of yourself for the sake of others.</span></em>ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5764095340740817202.post-11032339064461949722011-03-19T11:41:00.000-07:002011-03-19T11:41:27.902-07:00We Are The Ones We Are Waiting For<iframe src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/SkSN_buNl4Q?fs=1" frameborder="0" width="425" height="344" allowfullscreen=""></iframe>ibeebarbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03326063095961168443noreply@blogger.com1