Saturday, August 8, 2009

Latest Read

Well have been trying to gather information to begin the preparation of my master's thesis and along the researching trail I came across a book at the library that caught my eye. The title alone is a little

Anyway, at first I wasn't sure I wanted to partake in reading such a book, but there was a part of me that really wanted to see what it was all about, so the reading began.

Admittedly, I laughed at the obvious ridiculousness of the behavior of women and yet sadly saw some similar traits in myself. Grrrrrrrrrrr, hate when that happens! Nonetheless, I thought it was a great confirmed growth I had made as well as reminders of how I should perceive things in any potential relationship. Moreover, I think this is a must read for women. Even though it might be painful or make you mad to read it, it is essential for making better choices for one’s self rather than continuing to live delusionally.

This is not a “man bashing” book but rather a “woman taking accountability” book. We as women do not have the right to continue bashing men and blaming them for the things we knowingly accept as their bad behavior. We cannot love them one minute, then turn around and complain how awful they are because we no longer accept their behavior as such. Quite honestly, I think we as women tend to think more along the lines of “what if” rather than “what is” and therefore wake up one day feeling some how empty. We tend to think “if only this or that happened” we would be fulfilled and complete, which certainly puts a lot of responsibility on someone other than ourselves to make that happen with that type of thinking. Specifically thinking, when it comes to finding a life partner, we as women need to remember we are part of the selection process too. We are responsible for choosing our life partner just as he was selective in his choice. I think often times this gets over looked by the woman, and she believes she can only be selected. If more women put effort into selecting their partner as men did there would probably be more of a balance in partnerships rather than women just waiting to be picked.

Would love to know your thoughts on this……….. Perhaps a nice dialogue between the two genders would make for an interesting discussion


PH said...

"“if only this or that happened”"

Men do sometimes think like that as well; but we never realistically expect it. I think women use their hearts to much and I don't think that will change except with age and pain . I think even then the change is relative :).

"to begin the preparation of my master's thesis"

Really glad to hear your starting on thesis, would have said we're proud of you; but that would have sounded gay :P.

salaam and good luck in your studies.

Libyan Violet said...

Good luck with your thesis.

I think that this book is on my next list of to do things :P

on the edge said...

Thanks for the review! Sounds like similar lines I have been thinking about recently .It is a epiphany when you realize you are the beginning and the end of all your troubles and you have to stop blaming all and sundry for them . Even when one knows this ,it is still hard to grow up and stand up for maturity sometimes .I am still trying to grow up .LOL !

You go girl and get that degree! Kiss the Princess for me .Peace out , OTE