Friday, May 14, 2010

Reflection

Life is funny – Had one of those ‘Aha’ or ‘Good Grief’ moments today. Realized as a single mom with virtually no alone time to really speak of----I essentially threw away my younger years wasting my entire “nobody to worry about but me” time pining over not being married and have a family yet. Stupid, stupid, stupid

3 comments:

Sparkling Motivation said...

You know Barbie... I'm also fearing the fact that I might end up pining to get married...

So the question is, is it right to be content with being single? To what extent?

It scares me at times...


Sparkle

ibeebarbie said...

Good question Sparkle. Honestly, and it's probably going to rub some in the wrong way, but for me in my 20's I hadn't really lived enough of my own life before really knowing what I wanted. All I ever cared about from the time I got out of high school was to get married and have a family. However, it wasn't until later that I realized there was so much more to life than just that. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to be married again, but I believe this time I'm more ready for it----will appreciate it more. Not that I didn't before, but there's just something about having expanded my mind, experiences and general overall life's journey that causes me to be more "present". I'm sure there are those that can remain "present" at all times no matter their age, but for me it's taken perhaps a bit longer to learn such a gift.

I understand your questions of "is it right to be content with being single?" I think it is ok because then that's accepting exactly where you are right now in life, and if the right person comes along it will be a welcoming rather than a feeling of necessity. Better to have someone compliment another's life then to feel they have to complete that person's life.

on the edge said...

LOL ! was just thinking about how i have wasted some years myself because I was so un-confident in myself . How stupid was that ? If only I knew then what I know now thing . lol !